Well....I sort of hinted at an update to the weekend for this post, but I have been avoiding it most of the day. In whatever I write, I want to be honest. We did not exactly have the weekend we had planned. The fact is that one of our biggest issues is lack of couple time. We had not been alone together for so much as a dinner since last July. Unfortunately, it was more necessary to discuss issues we have not been able to discuss openly in front of the children than it was to wine and dine. Some of these discussions were frustrating and difficult, but I think we actually accomplished more long term by having some time to communicate than the relaxation would have contributed. And one of those things was that we NEED to have these types of discussions FAR MORE OFTEN whether or not work is looming! There are things we just haven't discussed in order to protect the children. My need to be away from them came only from a need to talk openly without them present and I believe my husband finally understood that. We need to protect them, and simply ignoring the big issues because they are present doesn't do that. After 12 years, that we are still sorting through this stuff astounds (and irritates) us both. But then, when we said "for better or for worse," we had to tackle the "for worse" part so much sooner than we ever anticipated! So now, we are playing "catch up" on the better, I suppose. At least I can trust we are both committed to it! When we said "I do", we both meant it. We both considered those words a promise to God first, even before each other, or now our children. We fear God. And that's a healthy thing sometimes to get us through. I like that word "us." I have been wanting to use it, and mean it, for so VERY VERY long. And I feel hopeful that through many tears, it is happening.
Monday, April 23, 2007
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It's too bad we don't live closer together. We could trade babysitting to get some couple time alone. And we could have coffee together and discuss the finer points of motherhood, and we could.....oh, it would be nice.
It sounds like your time was well spent. Okay, so it wasn't your dream getaway. But it was time very well spent. Outside of your relationship with our Heavenly Father, nothing could be more important than strengthening our marriages. Kudos to you and hubby for engaging in what counts most.
Blessings,
~Toni~
Even though your weekend didn't work out the way you had planned it sounds like you still had great time. It's so important to communicate and I know what you mean by sheilding our young ones. They grow up to fast as it is, and there is no reason to worry them about grown-up stuff. I'm glad you and him were able to sit down and talk about all the important things going on in your life.
I'm thankful you feel like things were accomplished this past weekend. I know that time was long overdue and I'm praying it's lasting effects for the two of you. Heavenly Father I lift this couple up to you in the precious name of Jesus and ask that you bless them with more time and effort to "visit" and "bond". I thank you for their union and for being with them at all times and always being willing to listen to their hearts and answer their prayers. I pray that they will grow daily as a family and take the opportunities you give them to focus on you and your Word through family devotions and discussions. Please help each one be a better communicator, always putting you first. Praying for the sweet children, also, that your loving hand always be upon each one of them and their tender hearts. I'm thankful for each member of this family and ask your continuing blessings on them. In the most wonderful name of Jesus, I pray. Thank you Lord! Amen
Love and Hugs to all, Mom/Grandma
Continue to pray for your husband and your marriage. Prayer is amazing and if you have never read the book "The Power of A Praying Wife" than you should it is very good and changed me therefore changing our marriage. Hang in there-even during the times where we think are the worst God is showing us great things and working non-stop to transform our marriage by transforming us! God bless you!
I'm sorry the weekend didn't go as you had planned or hoped it would. But at least you were able to get some serious talking in without the kids around! I teared up reading your post that you linked to! What a beginning to your marriage you have overcome!
Alone time with ones spouse is some of the most important time we can ever take. I know my husband and I don't do it often enough. I am sorry your weekend didn't go as planned, but it sounds like you got some great conversations accomplished.
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